#AuthenticFeelings
Why have feelings? What’s the point? Feelings are natural reactions to real situations.
They have a physical and a psychological impact. They are useful because they give us information about the situation we are in.
Feelings are classified as Authentic Feelings and Racket Feelings. Authentic Feelings when expressed foster problem solving.
Authentic Feelings
There are 4 authentic feelings.
~ #Fear – tells us that there is a problem in the immediate future that we don’t yet have a solution for (e.g. loosing of something).m
~ #Anger – tells us that there is a problem in up the present which we don’t yet have a solution for (e.g. the noise).
~ #Sorrow~ tells us that there is a problem in the recent past that we don’t yet have a solution for (e.g. the loss of our friend).
~ #Joy -tells us that we are safe and comfortable.
Along with the 4 , we. An adopt the feeling of love and likeliness as authentic feeling.
Expressing Authentic Feelings finishes them.
Other feelings are not so ‘Authentic’
Racket Feeling
Having feelings like ‘panic’, ‘guilty’ or ‘feeling invisible’ or ‘frustrated’ isn’t so straightforward. They are certainly real feelings in the sense that they may come as a strong reaction to the circumstances we find ourselves in.
But when we consider the information they offer it doesn’t seem so clear. And, these feelings have a tendency to recur, or just ‘rumble on’ after the event that triggers them.
In TA, these feelings are considered to be inauthentic, or ‘racket’ feelings, quite unlike the four authentic feelings of joy, sadness, anger and fear.
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Remember that everyone is different and any self-help process can only offer ideas in general terms. It may be that ‘dealing with feelings’, especially uncomfortable ones, means working with someone who is qualified to support you.
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