Thinking Errors That Will Crush Our Mental Strength

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Mr. Nut : Oh is it ! .. Interesting Bro !! Can you tell me What is Mental strength ?

Mt. Bolt : To  me, mental strength means that managing our thoughts, regulating our emotions, and behaving productively despite our circumstances. It’s about establishing healthy habits and choosing to devote your time and energy to self-improvement.

As we go about our daily routines, our internal monologue narrates our experience. Our self-talk guides our behavior and influences the way we interact with others.

So All we know is very simple, our thoughts plays major role in what we talk? What we decide? And what we interact?!. As you know the talk, decision and the interaction help us to reach personal or professional goals in our life , the key to success often starts with recognizing and replacing inaccurate thoughts.

We may look at very few and important thinking errors in this article

All-or-Nothing Thinking

All or Nothing, or ‘Black and White’ thinking is the thought pattern that allows us to generate a “flight or fight” response to danger. Depression makes peopleto  think in absolutes,  Maybe you look at each task or action as either a success or a failure. Recognize the shades of gray, rather than putting things in terms of all good or all bad.

Over generalizing

It’s easy to take one particular event and generalize it to the rest of our life. If you failed to close one deal, you may decide, “I’m bad at closing deals.” Or if you are treated poorly by one family member, you might think, “Everyone in my family is rude.” Take notice of times when an incident may apply to only one specific situation, instead of all other areas of life.

Examples :

A child takes a single difficult math test and decides that all math tests must be difficult.

Filtering Out the Positive

If nine good things happen, and one bad thing, sometimes we filter out the good and hone in on the bad. Maybe we declare we had a bad day, despite the positive events that occurred. Or maybe we look back at our performance and declare it was terrible because we made a single mistake. Filtering out the positive can prevent you from establishing a realistic outlook on a situation. Develop a balanced outlook by noticing both the positive and the negative.

Example: When asked how our week was, we used to talk about the hectic tension and a critical works, but we used to left out  our job appreciation and family celebration

Mind-Reading

We can never be sure what someone else is thinking. Yet, everyone occasionally assumes they know what’s going on in someone else’s mind. Thinking things like, “He must have thought I was stupid at the seminar,” makes inferences that aren’t necessarily based on reality. Remind yourself that you may not be making accurate guesses about other people’s perceptions.

Example : A Man accidentally drops his Bag . Shortly thereafter, someone down the hall laughs. The Man concludes that the person must have been laughing at him and thinks he is clumsy rather than thinking he might have been laughing at a joke someone else told.

Catastrophizing

Sometimes we think things are much worse than they actually are. If we face financial issues in one or two months we may think “I’ll never have enough money to retire,” even though there’s no evidence that the situation is nearly that dire. It can be easy to get swept up into catastrophizing a situation once your thoughts become negative. When you begin predicting doom and gloom, remind yourself that there are many other potential outcomes

Example :

A child does poorly on a single test at school and decides that her education is ruined and she’ll never amount to anything, or that her failure makes it likely that she’ll only fail in the future.

A Girl is dumped by her boyfriend and she considers or attempts suicide.

Emotional Reasoning

Our emotions aren’t always based on reality but we often assume those feelings are rational. Emotional Reasoning occurs when we  assumes that negative emotions reflect or are necessarily caused by a negative reality. It generally takes the form of “I feel X, therefore X must be true.”

Example : A Man feels miserable when he thinks about his girlfriend, so he assumes that something must be wrong with her.

Labeling and Mislabeling 
Labeling involves putting a name to something. Instead of thinking, “He made a mistake,” you might label your neighbor as “an idiot.”

Example : A boy angers his girlfriend who refuses to go out with him the next night. Instead of admitting that he made a mistake and shouldn’t have talked to her the way he did, he might either label himself a bad boyfriend, or label her a whiny and selfish girlfriend.

Fortune-telling

Although none of us knows what will happen in the future, we sometimes like to try our hand at fortune-telling. We think things like,  “If I go on a diet I’ll probably just gain weight.”

Example : A child predicts that his mom will be mad at her when she gets home. She acts rudely to her mother and, as a result, her mother is angry.

Fixing Thinking Errors

After we recognize our thinking errors, we can begin trying to challenge those thoughts. Look for exceptions to the rule and gather evidence that your thoughts aren’t 100% true. Then, we can begin replacing them with more realistic thoughts.

The goal doesn’t need to be to replace negative thoughts with overly idealistic or positive ones. Instead, replace them with realistic thoughts. Changing the way you think takes a lot of effort initially, but with practice, we’ll notice big changes—not just in the way you think, but also in the way you feel and behave.

Okies .. Let stop it here ..

Let us try this and start looking different at our past and live peace at the present and think about the future in a way that will support our chances.. Cheers  :)

-Sagaya